Ep 7: Body Image

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Show Notes:

This is episode 7 of The Mom Mentor podcast. We’re talking about fun stuff like Body Image!

Body image is a loaded issue for so many of us. And because of that, it’s important to discuss.

Did you know that approximately 91% of women are unhappy with their bodies and resort to dieting in an attempt to achieve their ideal body shape. And, unfortunately, only 5% of women naturally possess the body type often portrayed by Americans in the media.

No wonder we struggle with body image. We are holding ourselves up to impossible standards that 95% of us can’t naturally achieve!!

In this episode:

  • We’ll talk about how our poor body image can impact our children in hopes that we can become aware of the power of our words to affect our children in this area.

  • I’ll share some of my story about how I struggled with my own weight and how my parents unintentionally played a part in this struggle.

  • I’ll let you know the 5 Key Things I Learned about how to help my own kids have a healthy relationship with food and good body images.

EXCERPT

…One recent conversation was a powerful reminder of how much our words can impact our kids.

I was sharing with my 29-year-old daughter about how happy I was to be part of a program that includes a five-day workout routine, healthy eating, and some good coaching. I had lost weight and was feeling strong and healthy. I ended the conversation by saying, “But I hate my heavy legs!” I hung up the phone and those words lingered in my mind, “What? I don’t hate my legs. What a terrible thing to say. I can’t believe I said that. My legs keep me exercising and carry me around day in and day out.”

I shared this with my daughter by text. Her response was, “Oh good. Because if you hate your legs, I feel like I should hate mine!”

RELATED POSTS

Want to go a little deeper?

Here’s a podcast from Slices of Life called Making Peace with Our Bodies

Here’s a blog post on some changes I made to make my dream of getting fit come true.

Coaching Challenge

How do you feel about your body? What are you saying to your kids about this?

Coaching Challenge - Choose one part of your body you tend to criticize. What is one positive thing you can say about this? Record this somewhere…and let your kids hear you celebrate instead of denigrate your body!


Podcast Host: Elise Daly Parker

Produced by: storyLOUD

For more information about Elise Daly Parker, please go to www.elisedalyparker.com

Ep 6: Do You Trash Talk Your Husband, Kids or Life?

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Show Notes:

This is episode 6 of The Mom Mentor podcast. Here we’re talking about Trash Talking Your Husband, Kids, and Life.

Do you ever find yourself trash talking your husband, your kids, your life? It might feel good initially to get your frustration out, but the truth is this kind of talk leads to negative thoughts and emotions. So ultimately, instead of feeling better, we feel worse towards those very people we love.

In this episode:

  • We’ll unpack common scenarios that are ripe for trash talking and what we can do to change this.

  • I’ll share my story of how I came to see I was having conversations that led to magnifying my negative feelings. Who needs that? I’d much rather have a positive attitude. Wouldn’t you?

  • I lay out 3 steps you can take to shift your “thinkin’ stinkin’” so you can develop default thinking and speaking that focuses on the good instead of the bad.

EXCERPT

Do you ever find yourself getting together with a bunch of moms and bad-mouthing your husband? Do you meet with friends and yip-yap about how clueless, inattentive, thoughtless…fill in the blank…your husband is?

How about your kids? Do you complain about them to your mom, your husband, your neighbor?  Or compare them to your friend’s child...and your child comes out looking worse. “Wow...Tommy just offered Ellie a bite of his cookie. Ellie would never share like that!”

Your life? Do you enter a room huffing and puffing with exclamations of how you can’t believe what’s happened now...or how unbearable your schedule is as if you’re the only one suffering?

If you have, I assure you, you are not alone…

RELATED POSTS

Want to go a little deeper?

Here’s a podcast from Slices of Life called How to Use Your Words Well

Here’s a blog post on The Power of Gratitude - I find it’s the antidote to complaining.

related scripture

Here is a powerful scripture I mentioned in this podcast that’s related to thinking positively.

“Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.” Phil 4:8


Podcast Host: Elise Daly Parker

Produced by: storyLOUD

For more information about Elise Daly Parker, please go to www.elisedalyparker.com

Ep 5: Anger + Rage ... Your Dirty Little Secret.

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Show Notes:

This is episode 5 of The Mom Mentor podcast. Here we’re talking about Anger and Rage - A Mama’s Dirty Little Secret.

Do you ever find yourself worn out, frustrated, disillusioned by the life you’re leading as a wife and mom? Maybe you imagined this life would be more fun and fancy-free, but it’s actually very difficult at times. Some days the mounting frustration leads to you losing your cool. You are not alone!

On this episode:

  • We’ll unpack some of the reasons why we lose our tempers.

  • I’ll share my story of how I had to come to grips with the effect of my words and my tone on my family…and what I did about it. THERE IS HOPE!

  • I’ll lay out 3 A’s - Admit, Attention, and Act - that can really help you calm down and change your behavior.

EXCERPT

Let’s just say my life as a wife and mom was not how I pictured it. It was far messier and more challenging than the ideal I conjured up!

Marriage? Well, it wasn’t nearly as romantic as I had imagined. I thought my husband would fill all my needs for love, connection, companionship. But he didn’t, he couldn’t…

Oh and mothering? Wow! What can I tell you? I had no idea…I didn’t know kids’ needs were endless. I didn’t know how demanding running a household would be…I never imagined the time and organization it took to keep up with laundry, meals, and eventually activities. I never anticipated visiting friends and comparing myself, my messy home, my sloppy clothes to them. I was supposed to be them.

When I let my frustration build, the dam would break, the anger flowed freely, I let loose a mouthful of rage.

Anybody?

RELATED POSTS

Want to go a little deeper?

Here’s a Two-Part Post on how reactivity, a close relative of rage, creates havoc.

Forgiveness - What’s Your One Percent?

The Journey Continues

And here’s a practical article from Lisa-Jo Baker, who has done a lot of work around mom tempers - 10 Things to do Differently Before You Lose Your Temper


Podcast Host: Elise Daly Parker

Produced by: storyLOUD

For more information about Elise Daly Parker, please go to www.elisedalyparker.com

EP 4: When Your Yes Needs To Be a Resounding No

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Show Notes:

This is episode 4 of The Mom Mentor podcast. Here we’re talking about When Your Yes Really Needs To Be a Resounding NO!

Do you find yourself saying yes to too much? If the answer is yes, you surely are not alone. But I want to save you some pain. You don’t have to say no to everything, you just want to say yes to the best things. <-Click to Tweet

On this episode:

  • We’ll unpack some of the whys behind our yesses

  • Share a little story about the consequences of when a yes should be no

  • Lay out clear steps to take so you can determine what your best yesses and nos are.

Excerpt

I am a yes girl. I say yes to things I need to say no to. I need to say no because I don’t have the time, or the bandwidth (which means there are just too many things weighing on my brain to do them all well). And when I was raising kids and running a busy household, saying yes to too many things caused me stress and anxiety that inevitably landed on my husband or my kids. I had too many To Dos, with way too many expectations I had put upon myself by saying yes to someone else.

Anybody?

Related Posts and Podcast

Want to go a little deeper?

Lies we believe that drive us to say yes - CLICK HERE - Blog Post

Why Non-Negotiables are so important - CLICK HERE - Podcast

Podcast Host: Elise Daly Parker

Produced by: storyLOUD

For more information about Elise Daly Parker, please go to www.elisedalyparker.com